And sometimes I forget. I forget that he has autism. It doesn’t matter. It is absent. It can not be seen or heard. It is when he fits right in. It is when he is accepted by others. When he’s included, I forget. That’s what happened today. I forgot my son has autism. It didn’t cone to mind. This is especially true as he was socializing with others and as he was greeting people who passed by at the park. A little girl played with him. They dug for worms. They were happy. They were playing and using their imagination. They were being kids. Together. No discrimination. He was even told he was cute. Then he made more friends. Two boys. My husband and I watched him play and interact. It was a game of tag then hide and seek. Whatever it was, he was smiling. He was communicating appropriately. He was with two other boys his age. Autism did not matter then. They liked him. When they had to leave, they told JJ they’ll see him later. It was great joy to watch that. We gave him space and observed him. He was super happy and content. Just a regular kid. That is all. He fit right in. Autism didn’t matter. At that time, it didn’t. Not at all. For that, I’m grateful.
A lady followed me yesterday while JJ and I were shopping at Costco. I did not know she was following me until she told me she was. Yes, that is right. She told me she was following me. I did not notice. We were in the book aisle and JJ was looking at all the books and picking out ones that he wanted all while he was reading a book. She was watching him and listening. I still had no clue. I was focused on JJ and talking about the books we were looking at.
He was reading out loud. I was listening and looking through some books when this lady says, “Wow, he can read, that is so amazing..he is a genius, that boy is a genius.” Wow, I was taken back, that was so awesome to hear. I felt her being genuine and really interested in JJ. It was really nice. So, we began to chat and I told her that I never had him tested for being a gifted child but in fact that he was diagnosed with autism. She proceeded telling me that no one should ever put a label on my child and restrict him because he has so much potential. She was so fascinated with my son taht it made me feel amazing. I was in awe of the situation. We chatted for a few minutes and JJ hugged her willingly on his own and even said that he wanted to be her friend.
She explained to me that her son was the same way. He is now 3o something and a doctor in New York but when he was younger he had all the energy as does JJ and loved to read. “They” told her that something must be wrong with her son and that he is not not the other children his age. She told me how the teachers and others did not want to test him as being gifted but she just knew that he was. She did not allow any labels put on her son as she said do not let them hold my son back and that he deserves the same things as all children. He does not need to be separated but to be included. She told me after a while, her son was not so active and hyper but he had calmed down. He loved school and the doctors just wanted to give him medicine and other drugs to have his body settle down and ultimately conform.
What she was saying to me makes a whole lot of sense. These children do not need medication. They do not need to be segregated from typical children. They crave the same experiences as children their age, it is just that they express it differently. Giving them medication will only inhibit their capabilities of becoming and continuing being someone who was put on this Earth for the greater good of fellow humans. The energy within needs to be released not stifled by medication that ultimately alters their while being until they become somewhat like robots induced with chemicals. I always say Autism and ADHD are over diagnosed and that doctors want to give medication to these children. It is not fair to them. They first need love and understanding as well as people on the outside looking in that can relate to them. We never have given our son medicine even when his neurologist thought that his behaviors may have needed it. We made the right choice and I am always thankful for that.
It was nice to be followed, well like that at least. She was a very kind and loving person and it shined through. There needs to be more people like that in this world. It was nice to have a connection and a chat with a complete stranger who took a few minutes of her time to acknowledge my son and to share her story too.She noticed my son was different but showed love and peace instead of judgement. Not everyone does that or can do that. So it is not just about autism awareness but it is about autism acceptance.
A healthy child is a happy child and a happy child feels well and a child who feels well will always learn well.
I am so blessed that my son is happy and healthy. He has a lot of energy and is very creative. He loves to learn. He loves to write and read and definitely loves to try new things. I am very proud of him. He amazes me all the time.
He is cherished. He is wanted.
He motivates me to do more and to be more. He is our rock. He teaches us so much. This boy really has a wonderful soul and a heart of gold. I look forward to spending time with him. I often think of activities that we can do together and places that we can explore together. There is no other way I would rather spend my weekends and everyday than with my family. My rock, my inspiration and everything!!!
I want him to have the best childhood he can ever experience. I wish for him to have the fondest memories and to feel the love that both my husband and i have for him. That is so very important. I want him to know and understand that he is our gift. He is wanted. He means so much to us.
He is wanted.
It is awesome now how he is into Loorducation. He knows when I am taking a picture of him and asks questions about what I ma going to say about the picture and where am I going to put it up. He gives feedback and shares his ideas. that is important. It is vital that his voice is heard and I am so thrilled that he enjoys sharing and expressing himself. We are forever grateful. FOREVER.
He is wanted.
He asks thousands of questions. Repeats hundreds of things. Obsesses over “little” things.
He is wanted.
I do not know where his autism came from. I do not know why he has autism. I do not know. I just do not and that is OK. Of course there are speculations. But, who really knows?
He has had all of his vaccinations spaced out per our requests. Hmm, it makes you think though. Could that have played a role? I try not to get too deep into that as I would rather have a child on the autism spectrum; who is high functioning as my son is, than a child with a deadly disease. Are vaccines safe? They are said to be. Vaccines have helped so many. What is in them really, who knows? But, I would gladly give my son gluten and a vaccine instead of denying him gluten and exposing him to possible deadly diseases that he can ultimately die from.I get it, We all want to keep our kids healthy but if you are giving your child organic foods but not having them vaccinated, what good are your organic foods if a deadly outbreak hits the area and they are infected? Measles does not discriminate. I can understand not giving your child the flu shot, maybe but polio and these other diseases such as small pox, come on are much bigger disasters.
So what if my son “got autism” from vaccines when he was younger? I do not know. What I do know that his body is safe and has a defense against something deadly and he is not a threat around other children but children that are not vaccinated can be threats to babies and other immune compromised individuals.
Thinking about it, my son said about 6 words before the age of 2. After he got some vaccines, his words disappeared. I never put a lot of thought into it. Could it be related who knows? I do not know. It could be, right? Now, now that I think of it, it could be but what good is it going to do for me now? Nothing. We are moving forward not backwards. He talks, thank God. He was delayed but he got it and that is what counts. He has made awesome strides as well. Once thought to be in the middle of the spectrum, is now high functioning with symptoms that are dormant. The vaccines that he had helped him more than they harmed him if that is the case. Was I a skeptic, maybe but my son is happy, healthy, and a blessing. He can see, hear, walk, and talk. It is all good.
He eats all organic food. He has never eaten from a can. He takes children vitamins and Omega 3 fish oil which have such a positive effect on him. All of it, combined. Instead of being overly anxious about the harm vaccines are doing, parents need to look at the ingredients in the food that they are giving to their children. These ingredients that are in a lot of these processed foods have so many harmful side effects, far more than the effects of supposedly getting autism from a vaccine. The hormones that are in milk and chicken are outrageous, yet some give that to children on a constant basis but yet would not give their child a measles vaccine. It just does not add up to me.
I am not bashing anyone. I am stating some relevant information that can be eye opening to many. For example, we had our son vaccinated and choose not to give him cereals that are loaded with artificial colors and sugar and a lot of garbage that we can not pronounce because that has such a negative effect on his system as with all children. Some will give that to their children but disregard the need for a vaccination against a deadly disease. News flash, that stuff, that junk, that artificial processed junk that is labeled food is doing greater harm. So much so that we can not even believe. But we all must open our eyes. You can choose not to vaccinate but if you are giving your child GMO foods and cow’s milk, you are putting them at an even higher risk of whatever it is that you are scared of in the first place.
To vax or not to vax – check the facts. But if you are opting not to give your child vaccinations because you do not want them to get autism. you are doing a great disservice. Like I have stated in the beginning, I do not know where my son’s autism came from, there can be many speculations. I believe food could have played a very BIG part. Could it have been the vaccines, maybe, maybe not, who knows? What I do know is how great organic and non GMO natural unprocessed foods have positively affected him and his diagnosis of autism. Will he get his next vaccination. Most likely, yes. We have to keep our children safe. A child with autism can lead a healthy, long fulfilling life while a child with ,measles or polio does not stand a chance. Therefore, my son will sit.
The following are actual questions that my son has asked me before. Many of the questions he has asked over and over until he got an answer he was satisfied with. He is 6.5 years old and if you have been a follower for a while you know that he is on the autism spectrum. Of course, these are not by any means typical questions that would come from a child of his age but he really is indeed curious and passionate about what he has the need to know. It is him and you know what. It is OK.
Where is George Washington buried? What year did Benjamin Franklin die? When did Abraham Lincoln die? What color tie did Martin Luther King Jr. wear? Did it have stripes? When you were in school, what kind of shirt did your teacher have? What color was it and was the pocket on the right or the left side? Was Hamilton born in 1978?
What store did you get that from? What aisle was it in? Was it on the middle, bottom, or top shelf? How much did it cost?
What did I do when I was younger? When did you buy that? On What day? Where was I? What did I do in Ecuador? What kind of juice was I drinking last year when I was playing with my cousin?
What did I say when I was born?
He has quite the detective skills going on. Detailed with precision. Just some building blocks to strengthen his love for learning and that is what is important.
For years he did not speak. We are now blessed.
Typical is boring ; ).
AUTISM- What is it? No, really..what IS it? Why does is vary so? Where did it come from? Why is it here? When will it leave? Will it ever leave? Who does it affect? How does it affect and/or interfere with everyday life? Is it a life sentence? Do you know someone who has autism? Can autism be “cured” or treated? Is autistic a term you use? What are the autism terms and labels?
I can only answer a few of those questions and from my point of view only. As you know, my son JJ, has autism. Yes, he is an ASD child. He is on the autism spectrum. He was first diagnosed with PDD at the age of 3. He is now 6. I do not tend to labels so there is no need for me to always state that my son is high functioning autistic. I just say, when necessary, that my son is on the autism spectrum and just plainly that he is autistic. I mean, does it matter? Really? I have a son. I do not introduce him as my autistic son. Questions? I welcome them. Comments, yes, those too. Productive ones I keep and destructive ones get thrown out. autism has been a part of our lives for a little over three years now, well more than that but we did not know. And, does that matter? Before my son and studying for my undergraduate degree, I did not know what autism was? Yes, was..It is always changing, right? Yes..I remember seeing billboards about autism 1 in 125..then 1 in 88 and son on. What is this autism> One thing I can tell you is that autism is not the end of the world but the beginning of a whole new one. Yes, my son has autism. Autism does not have him. It is his super power. We are focusing on him using it to his advantage. It will not hinder him but we will make sure it does better him. It is not a disease. My son is NOT disabled, he is different abled. His brain is wired differently. He is unique. He is in his own world and I love entering i with love, compassion and patience. I learn from him everyday. It may not be easy at times but it sure is worth it.
JJ is AUSOME. He is a child. He loves to play, watch TV, read and all that good stuff. He loves school. He loves snacks. He can be crabby. He can be stubborn. But he is worth it. He matters. Social skills are an everyday learning experience for all of us. He just needs a little extra help in the right direction.
Now, would you know if you saw him?
My son, JJ. WOW I never thought I would write so much about him but he is so inspiring. This is number 89 but there are many other posts about JJ and autism that are named differently. Anyhow, I figured I would stop at the golden number 100. A book on his journey is looking to be in the works. I hope you all join us on that adventure when that happens. there is so much more to experience…
I love him. I love his little quirks. I “forget” that he has autism sometimes. A blessing in disguise. I would not want to change him at all. Like he told me yesterday, “God made you and I love you. You are the best mom ever.” That made my heart melt. I want that to stay forever. It makes you forget about meltdowns and stubbornness. I am blessed. My piece to the puzzle. He is a good boy most of the time. Sometimes he gives me the run for my money but overall I would not have it any other way. He loves to hang out with us and is very close to me and my husband. He gives so much love. He is amazing. He is JJ and he has autism. Autism does not have him. He likes to do a lot of hands on activities and projects. He loves to pretend and play school. AUTISM is his super power and we will always use it to his advantage for he is differently- abled not disabled .