I Forget

And sometimes I forget. I forget that he has autism. It doesn’t matter. It is absent. It can not be seen or heard. It is when he fits right in. It is when he is accepted by others. When he’s included, I forget. That’s what happened today. I forgot my son has autism. It didn’t cone to mind. This is especially true as he was socializing with others and as he was greeting people who passed by at the park. A little girl played with him. They dug for worms. They were happy. They were playing and using their imagination. They were being kids. Together. No discrimination. He was even told he was cute. Then he made more friends. Two boys. My husband and I watched him play and interact. It was a game of tag then hide and seek. Whatever it was, he was smiling. He was communicating appropriately. He was with two other boys his age. Autism did not matter then. They liked him. When they had to leave, they told JJ they’ll see him later. It was great joy to watch that. We gave him space and observed him. He was super happy and content. Just a regular kid. That is all. He fit right in. Autism didn’t matter. At that time, it didn’t. Not at all. For that, I’m grateful.

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A Lady Followed Me

A lady followed me yesterday while JJ and I were shopping at Costco. I did not know she was following me until she told me she was. Yes, that is right. She told me she was following me. I did not notice. We were in the book aisle and JJ was looking at all the books and picking out ones that he wanted all while he was reading a book. She was watching him and listening. I still had no clue. I was focused on JJ and talking about the books we were looking at.

He was reading out loud. I was listening and looking through some books when this lady says, “Wow, he can read, that is so amazing..he is a genius, that boy is a genius.” Wow, I was taken back, that was so awesome to hear. I felt her being genuine and really interested in JJ. It was really nice. So, we began to chat and I told her that I never had him tested for being a gifted child but in fact that he was diagnosed with autism. She proceeded telling me that no one should ever put a label on my child and restrict him because he has so much potential. She was so fascinated with my son taht it made me feel amazing. I was in awe of the situation. We chatted for a few minutes and JJ hugged her willingly on his own and even said that he wanted to be her friend.

She explained to me that her son was the same way. He is now 3o something and a doctor in New York but when he was younger he had all the energy as does JJ and loved to read. “They” told her that something must be wrong with her son and that he is not not the other children his age. She told me how the teachers and others did not want to test him as being gifted but she just knew that he was. She did not allow any labels put on her son as she said do not let them hold my son back and that he deserves the same things as all children. He does not need to be separated but to be included. She told me after a while, her son was not so active and hyper but he had calmed down. He loved school and the doctors just wanted to give him medicine and other drugs to have his body settle down and ultimately conform.

What she was saying to me makes a whole lot of sense. These children do not need medication. They do not need to be segregated from typical children. They crave the same experiences as children their age, it is just that they express it differently. Giving them medication will only inhibit their capabilities of becoming and continuing being someone who was put on this Earth for the greater good of fellow humans. The energy within needs to be released not stifled by medication that ultimately alters their while being until they become somewhat like robots induced with chemicals. I always say Autism and ADHD are over diagnosed and that doctors want to give medication to these children. It is not fair to them. They first need love and understanding as well as people on the outside looking in that can relate to them. We never have given our son medicine even when his neurologist thought that his behaviors may have needed it. We made the right choice and I am always thankful for that.

It was nice to be followed, well like that at least. She was a very kind and loving person and it shined through. There needs to be more people like that in this world. It was nice to have a connection and a chat with a complete stranger who took a few minutes of her time to acknowledge my son and to share her story too.She noticed my son was different but showed love and peace instead of judgement. Not everyone does that or can do that. So it is not just about autism awareness but it is about autism acceptance.

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JJ, You are Wanted

A healthy child is a happy child and a happy child feels well and a child who feels well will always learn well.

I am so blessed that my son is happy and healthy. He has a lot of energy and is very creative. He loves to learn. He loves to write and read and definitely loves to try new things. I am very proud of him. He amazes me all the time.

He is cherished. He is wanted.

He motivates me to do more and to be more. He is our rock. He teaches us so much. This boy really has a wonderful soul and a heart of gold. I look forward to spending time with him. I often think of activities that we can do together and places that we can explore together. There is no other way I would rather spend my weekends and everyday than with my family. My rock, my inspiration and everything!!!

I want him to have the best childhood he can ever experience. I wish for him to have the fondest memories and to feel the love that both my husband and i have for him. That is so very important. I want him to know and understand that he is our gift. He is wanted. He means so much to us.

He is wanted.

It is awesome now how he is into Loorducation. He knows when I am taking a picture of him and asks questions about what I ma going to say  about the picture and where am I going to put it up. He gives feedback and shares his ideas. that is important. It is vital that his voice is heard and I am so thrilled that he enjoys sharing and expressing himself. We are forever grateful. FOREVER.

He is wanted.

He asks thousands of questions. Repeats hundreds of things. Obsesses over “little” things.

He is wanted.

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The Unseen Vaccines

I do not know where his autism came from. I do not know why he has autism. I do not know. I just do not and that is OK. Of course there are speculations. But, who really knows?

He has had all of his vaccinations spaced out per our requests. Hmm, it makes you think though. Could that have played a role? I try not to get too deep into that as I would rather have a child on the autism spectrum; who is high functioning as my son is, than a child with a deadly disease. Are vaccines safe? They are said to be. Vaccines have helped so many. What is in them really, who knows? But, I would gladly give my son gluten and a vaccine instead of denying him gluten and exposing him to possible deadly diseases that he can ultimately die from.I get it, We all want to keep our kids healthy but if you are giving your child organic foods but not having them vaccinated, what good are your organic foods if a deadly outbreak hits the area and they are infected? Measles does not discriminate. I can understand not giving your child the flu shot, maybe but polio and these other diseases such as small pox, come on are much bigger disasters.

So what if my son “got autism” from vaccines when he was younger? I do not know. What I do know that his body is safe and has a defense against something deadly and he is not a threat around other children but children that are not vaccinated can be threats to babies and other immune compromised individuals.

Thinking about it, my son said about 6 words before the age of 2. After he got some vaccines, his words disappeared. I never put a lot of thought into it. Could it be related who knows? I do not know. It could be, right? Now, now that I think of it, it could be but what good is it going to do for me now? Nothing. We are moving forward not backwards. He talks, thank God. He was delayed but he got it and that is what counts. He has made awesome strides as well. Once thought to be in the middle of the spectrum, is now high functioning with symptoms that are dormant. The vaccines that he had helped him more than they harmed him if that is the case. Was I a skeptic, maybe but my son is happy, healthy, and a blessing. He can see, hear, walk, and talk. It is all good.

He eats all organic food. He has never eaten from a can. He takes children vitamins and Omega 3 fish oil which have such a positive effect on him. All of it, combined. Instead of being overly anxious about the harm vaccines are doing, parents need to look at the ingredients in the food that they are giving to their children. These ingredients that are in a lot of these processed foods have so many harmful side effects, far more than the effects of supposedly getting autism from a vaccine. The hormones that are in milk and chicken are outrageous, yet some give that to children on a constant basis but yet would not give their child a measles vaccine. It just does not add up to me.

I am not bashing anyone. I am stating some relevant information that can be eye opening to many. For example, we had our son vaccinated and choose not to give him cereals that are loaded with artificial colors and sugar and a lot of garbage that we can not pronounce because that has such a negative effect on his system as with all children. Some will give that to their children but disregard the need for a vaccination against a deadly disease. News flash, that stuff, that junk, that artificial processed junk that is labeled food is doing greater harm. So much so that we can not even believe. But we all must open our eyes. You can choose not to vaccinate but if you are giving your child GMO foods and cow’s milk, you are putting them at an even higher risk of whatever it is that you are scared of in the first place.

To vax or not to vax – check the facts. But if you are opting not to give your child vaccinations because you do not want them to get autism. you are doing a great disservice. Like I have stated in the beginning, I do not know where my son’s autism came from, there can be many speculations. I believe food could have played  a very BIG part. Could it have been the vaccines, maybe, maybe not, who knows? What I do know is how great organic and non GMO natural unprocessed foods have positively affected him and his diagnosis of autism. Will he get his next vaccination. Most likely, yes. We have to keep our children safe. A child with autism can lead a healthy, long fulfilling life while a child with ,measles or polio does not stand a chance. Therefore, my son will sit.

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Thank you.

Questions from an ASD MInd

The following are actual questions that my son has asked me before. Many of the questions he has asked over and over until he got an answer he was satisfied with. He is 6.5 years old and if you have been a follower for a while you know that he is on the autism spectrum. Of course, these are not by any means typical questions that would come from a child of his age but he really is indeed curious and passionate about what he has the need to know. It is him and you know what. It is OK.

Where is George Washington buried? What year did Benjamin Franklin die? When did Abraham Lincoln die? What color tie did Martin Luther King Jr. wear? Did it have stripes? When you were in school, what kind of shirt did your teacher have? What color was it and was the pocket on the right or the left side?  Was Hamilton born in 1978?

What store did you get that from? What aisle was it in? Was it on the middle, bottom, or top shelf? How much did it cost?

What did I do when I was younger? When did you buy that? On What day? Where was I? What did I do in Ecuador? What kind of juice was I drinking last year when I was playing with my cousin?

What did I say when I was born?

He has quite the detective skills going on. Detailed with precision. Just some building blocks to strengthen his love for learning and that is what is important.

For years he did not speak. We are now blessed.

Typical is boring ; ).

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You Want to do What?

He wants to use his Angry Bird sling shot to do something that I would have NEVER thought a 6 year old would say…

As we walked past Petco, he told me that he wanted to take all of the toys and things in there, put them all on his sling shot and send them all the way up to Heaven – for his 2 guinea pigs that passed away during the summer. Zebra Isabella and Fatty George. Those two animals were his best friends and he loved them so…

Yes, one by one, he told me he would take the pet supplies and blast them off into Heaven so Zebra and George could be happy and have things to play with.

Yes, my indigo. So proud of him.

I am glad he is not “typical”. A six year old would usually want to take the sling shot and throw stuff to knock things down.

 

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Autism is his blessing. He is empathetic. He has raw emotion. He is truly unique and innocent. He is on the spectrum and not only will he be somebody one day, he IS somebody today!!!

And that is it..short and sweet <3, Dany

 

Are You Ignoring Me?

Why Can’t You Hear Me?

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Are you deaf? Are you DEAF? I said that at the top of my lungs as loud as I can, right in front of him and still NO response. He stared ahead at the TV, without a twitch. Let’s go back, a couple minutes beforehand I was calling out his name and he was not paying attention or so I thought. I finally became so frustrated that I shouted, “Are you deaf?”, and still nothing. I could not help it. I did not know what was happening. I did not know what was going on. Why isn’t my son responding? Oh my goodness, can he hear me?  Is this why he is not talking? Is this why  he does not babble or ask for things. You see, he was three years old. He has not yet spoken in a complete sentence. He could not tell you his name. He was non verbal. I believe he had said a few words, but that stopped. Then, nothing. It was literally a few words from what I can recall, then absolutely, nothing. He did not wave bye bye, was still in diapers, did not say his name and could not answer what was asked of him. What is going on? My son can not hear me. Fast forward, he has fluids in his ear and has decreased hearing because of it. Only about 20% capacity. We move along. He gets diagnosed with autism, we move along. Fast forward, he gets tubes in his ears and we move along. His speech begins to come and we move along. He hears better and that is why he is beginning to speak because he can now hear what is going on in the world around him. We move along.Blessings in disguise….
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